Fill Your Own Cup First

Some of you might be familiar with the words I chose for my title. I’m quite avid in reminding others to “fill your own cup first, then nourish others with the overflow”. I’ve quoted these words to others for quite a few years, but honestly have only recently learned to take my own advice.

You see, the premise is that we can’t pour into other’s cups if ours is empty. But recently, I realized that, in addition to that fact, I can’t nourish myself, either, if my cup is empty! Learning self-care and the balance between self-care and caring for others is definitely like a high-wire act with no net below.

I found this post on a social media site and realized that it said exactly what I needed – and have wanted for a while – to say. It helps me realize that self-care isn’t saying I’m more important than anyone else is, it’s merely saying that I’m equally as important as anyone else is! What a change in mindset that is!


I’m sharing this here because I know I’m not the only one who suffers with the guilt of self-care. It’s my hope that it will provide that “light bulb moment” to one or more of the people who read this and help those people also learn to step – albeit slowly – across that high wire with purpose and belief in themselves that they can successfully keep the balance.

And that’s all I’m gonna say ’bout that…